This is not the first time I land myself in trouble by speaking my heart out. I have done it before and I must admit I have this knack of making people hate me by looking them in the face and saying what I really feel.
But until yesterday, it was all me against them and I did not actually care. But yesterday, I happened to hear that my close friend started drinking because of me.
We live at a hostel, where the spirit of living together is placed above everything else in life. And my friend is one of the people who keep the machine ticking. There was this incident day before yesterday, where I accused him of being loyal to a certain group and not having any personal relationship with others whom they considered not good enough. Of course, I was right, but I think I should not have said what I said in front of all the people.
The poor guy who never had a sip of alcohol in his 21 years of existence, felt so heartbroken, not just because of what I said, but because my comments became the catalyst for so many others to speak their heart out. My dear friend was left so heart broken that we have not really looked each other in the face since then. I heard he had a few drinks yesterday and it is very disappointing to hear that he broke down, saying he let us all down.
It is very disappointing to see that my dear friend takes up drinking just because I spoke my heart out. May be I should have restrained from making the comment...
But there is a very interesting outcome from the whole incident. My other friends told me he was shouting aloud "I lost my girl and my hostel ". Now that is very interesting for me because I have known him for the past 10 and I have never known he had a girlfriend. I was always so proud of the fact that I knew everything about him and he knew everything about me.
May be I dont know everything about my dear friend.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Being a loose cannon !
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One thing which is clear about your friend is, he has no ability to rationally think and decide for himself.
ReplyDeleteIf some friend or some group is able to influence his own thinking and force him to do something which he actually don't want to, then its ridiculous situation.
A person must think rationally and act on the bases of reason.
If he drank because he himself wanted to enjoy the drink, then its his right, if he drank because some other bunch of people tried to intimidate and coarse or illude him, then it shows how weak individual he is.
I donno...
ReplyDeleteHe was one of those strong characters I have known in my life. He knew exactly when to speak nicely to people, when to talk rough, when to put his foot down...
When we joined college, we both had strong views against drinking or any addiction for that matter. but lately he has been sympathizing with people who drink....
I wonder why strong views against drinking?
ReplyDeleteStrong views must be against drinking excessively.
Mind is the greatest power and real need of a Man in all and every situation. And if alcohol after a limit threatens him to slow-down his mind or make him feel difficult to think reasonably, then he should not drink above that limit.
But if a person is drinking only that much which he can enjoy without loosing his conscious mind, then there's no wrong.
Your friend might have his own choice about experimenting over alcohol while he showed you as if you made him drink.
(its just a possibility)
He never make it look as if I made him drink, but I think he drank not to enjoy the drink, but he thought it will help him to forget everything. I don't think that is possible. You can never run away from life !
ReplyDeleteyes.
ReplyDeleteyou probably shouldn't have spoken..
and yes, your friend is a chump too.
Yea man your friend needs to grow up...But yes sometimes its better to keep you mouth shut and hope for the best :-)
ReplyDeleteAnd remember...Some things are better left unsaid
Cheers
Thanks for the comments, I think it is time realise there are times in life when you just need to shut your mouth and turn your head the other way !
ReplyDeletesad.
ReplyDeletefeel bad about that guy.But never keep a guilt in your heart.
It was his choice to drink or not.
hey.. it was his choice.. n he has already chosen.. u can only hope 4 the good!
ReplyDeleten yes.. do not feel bad abt it!
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ReplyDeletehey! this sounds exactly like something that happened to me!
ReplyDeleteI can understand what you're going through now.
But, you can't take control of your friend's life, right?
Ultimately, the choice is his.
Sometimes it's a blessing to master the art of selfishness. ( read all this gyaan coming from an experienced soul :P).
Don't feel guilty about it.
Cheer up young man!
hmmm..reminds me off my hostel days although i dint have a friend like tht..by now i guess you must have understood that its more of ur friends fault than yours.
ReplyDeletebut then probably he must be drinking earlier too ,something else that you did not probably know.
all said and done..release and chill..your feeling bad cant solve anything..
chao
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ReplyDelete... u can let him bak..
ReplyDeletei hv d hop...
itz not a big mstke...
he can com bak through u o'ly.....
Hi?
ReplyDeleteTruth can have strange effects on people. Interesting read
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